Many times we make the mistake of thinking that our actions will only involve ourselves. Not really thinking about who else is going to be affected by our encouragement or our negative criticism of another. Notice that I said negative criticism. There is a criticism that can be positive. Criticism means the act of expressing disapproval and of noting the problems or faults of a person or thing: the act of criticizing someone or something.
I remember listening to someone say that even if a person is being critical of me in a demeaning way, I should listen to what they are saying and if there is truth to it….make the necessary adjustments.
As humans, sometimes we are quick to judge one another on the basis of what we think we know instead of gathering the facts and examining them closely:
“Did they mean that?”
“Maybe they were having a bad day”
“I should see if I can help this person instead of quickly lashing out at them”
These are some of the sentences that we can ponder when someone negatively criticizes us. Meaning to do us harm. Remember that there is always a reason someone does something. Always. It may not be the reason that we think. That is why relationships are so important. If you don’t have a bond with someone, it is much easier to take what they say and twist into something they would never even dream of saying. As a matter of fact, I am willing to say that 90% of negative criticism can be summed up to this one cause: There was no REAL relationship formed between the critic and the one being criticized.
A working relationship will never be as strong as a loving relationship. One that is forged out of being there for one another and taking time to be around one another. Many misunderstandings could have been solved if there was a loving relationship (I want to do my best for this person) formed instead of a working relationship (I can’t wait to go home). May the Lord cause His face to shine upon you and make every one of your enemies your footstool. Maranatha!